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A Major Donor Tells You How to Ask
I sat down with a major donor several weeks ago when I was in New York City. We started talking about her philanthropy, what she was trying to...
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Jeff Schreifels : April 22, 2025
If you ask most CEOs or Executive Directors whether their organization is relationship-centered, they’ll usually say “yes.” But when you look closer, the reality often tells a different story.
For many, being “relationship-based” simply means getting thank-you receipts out on time or adding a donor’s name to a newsletter list. That’s not what we mean when we talk about real, meaningful relationships with donors.
At Veritus, we believe a relationship-centered approach means viewing the donor as an essential part of your mission—just as essential as your programs, your staff, and the communities you serve. This might feel like a radical idea, but it shouldn’t be. All non-profits need to rethink what their mission truly is.
Every non-profit has four pillars: 1) the work you do to change the world, 2) the staff and volunteers who carry it out, 3) the community you serve, and 4) your donors. When you fail to engage donors beyond basic transactions—when you don’t invest in building relationships—you’re effectively saying they’re not really part of your mission. And that’s a huge miss.
A robust mid-level program is one of the clearest expressions of a relationship-centered strategy. It honors the donor. Why? Because it acknowledges either their increased investment or their first meaningful step into partnership with your mission.
You're saying, “We noticed you. We see that you care. We want to understand why you gave and what you're passionate about, so we can invite you into even deeper impact.” That's the difference between treating a donor like an ATM and treating them like a vital partner.
Contrast that with what most organizations do: send the same mass fundraising communications to donors who have clearly shown they're ready for more. That’s not honoring the donor. That’s ignoring their signal and hoping they just keep giving more on their own. And when they don’t? We chalk it up to donor fatigue, when in reality, we failed to respond to their generosity with intention.
Mid-level giving is where the relationship can truly begin to grow. It removes the “clog” in your major gift pipeline by giving donors a more personalized experience—one where they can hear from a real person who says, “How can we help you go deeper with this work you clearly care about?” And when donors feel seen and heard, they give again. They give more. They tell you with their actions that they want to be even more engaged.
But here’s the bottom line: if you don’t have a mid-level program, you’re creating an unnecessary wall between your donors and the full expression of their generosity. You’re limiting their ability to fulfill their hopes and dreams through your mission.
That’s not just bad strategy—it’s a missed opportunity to change lives, theirs included.
So, honor your donors. Eliminate the barriers. Build a mid-level program that says to every donor: You matter. You’re part of this. Let’s do something extraordinary together.
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